On Making It Work

Same Destinations, Different Destinies.

A few years ago, in an effort to dispense wisdom on relationship challenges, my father shared one of his secrets to a successful marriage-"The first ten years are 90% work and 10% play"-which made me wonder, How much work is too much work?, especially considering (according to him) the amount of work needed in the first place. And then throw in the complexities multiplied by diverging careers, contrasting religions, and/or potential babysitters in the form of in-laws located on opposite sides of the country, and all of a sudden singledom takes on a new glow which sharply contrasts with wedding vows and baby clothes, and vanishes from your memory (in a near single moment) the dating horror stories of your 20's and 30's which made cleaning your apt/house/car/clothes a preferred alternative on a Friday night. And, yet, we do it anyway because sharing a life with another person-to grow and change together, to create and learn, and to support and love one another-makes the rest of the 'work' feel like a walk in the park. Enjoy!